Hey everyone, Krystal here, and for those of you who don’t know me, I’m a certified clinical hypnotherapist. In this video I’m going to talk about how hypnotherapy can help you change stubborn habits more quickly, easily, and successfully – with permanent results.
In hypnotherapy, we work from the subconscious part of the mind. Think of the subconscious as a library or a storehouse of information, skills, behaviors, habits, belief systems, and fears. And whatever is in the subconscious will be acted out automatically by the body, without you having to think about it.
So remember when you were a little kid and you first learned how to tie your shoes. It wasn’t the easiest thing: you didn’t have the motor skills, you really had to think about what you were doing while you were doing it. But you were a kid, and so you were having fun. You wanted to learn.
Fast forward as an adult, now you can tie your shoes and think about other things at the same time. Well that’s because it’s a subconscious skill – it’s an automatic skill – you don’t have to think about it to do it.
Well, the interesting thing about children is that they tend to learn from the subconscious part of their mind. So up until about the age of 7, they are in a theta brainwave state. And theta is the domain of the subconscious and it is associated with easier faster learning. You soak up information and skills like a sponge – or like a child.
Now the other interesting thing about the subconscious is that it can override the conscious mind’s desire. So let’s say you want to stop smoking or stop binge eating, and there’s a subconscious belief that it is safer or more beneficial for you to continue that unwanted behavior. Well more than likely, the subconscious is going to win out.
So even though you really want to make this change and adopt a healthier lifestyle, the subconscious is going to win and cause you to act automatically. This is where self-sabotage comes in or what sometimes feels like an invisible block – or why you are good for a few days, weeks, or months and then you fall back into old habits. It’s because nothing really changed on the subconscious level.
In hypnotherapy, I will guide you from the conscious mind (beta brainwave activity) into your subconscious (the alpha and theta brainwave activity, and in some cases gamma or delta). From here we can remove those beliefs or fears that have been blocking or slowing your progress and not only remove them, but we can add in suggestions that support the outcome you’re seeking. And then of course now that you’re learning from the subconscious part of the mind instead of the conscious mind, learning becomes easier and faster and it happens with less effort – and it’s also more enjoyable.
If you’d like more information, or if you’d like to sign-up for a hypnotherapy session with me – head on over to http://www.thewholemeasure.com, and I will talk to you soon!
As 2019 is coming to a close, many of us are turning our attention toward the new year and what we hope to experience or accomplish in the next 12 months. We reflect on the success and the challenges of the previous year, and begin to hope and dream about the future. And with the transition of the winter solstice, this is a natural time to be more quiet, look within, and reflect on changes we want to make in the coming year.
Before we go on, ask yourself: How many new year resolutions have you set and then forgotten about within a matter of days or weeks? How many have you stayed committed to throughout an entire year?
Many of us have too many lost or broken resolutions to count. (And as we get older it gets harder to keep count!)
So this year, I’d like to invite you to approach your new year resolution with more openness and fluidity. I’m going to share with you how I create my own resolution for the new year, and set myself up for success in the process.
Natural & Astrological Alignments
If this isn’t your cup of tea, you can skip ahead to the next section, but personally I find that by aligning with the cycles of nature, I get an added boost of energy with my intentions. During winter, we naturally turn inward to ourselves more. We spend more time inside because of the cold weather, and may even want to sleep more because of the longer nights and shorter days. In those longer nights, we may find ourselves dreaming more and reflecting on the vibrant and active seasons (past and to come).
What are you dreaming into your future?
Solar eclipses are also a great time for setting intentions, because the powerful energies they bring help spur you forward into new beginnings that are aligned with your purpose and path in life.
This is why I personally chose to set my intent and focus for the new year (2020) a little early.
Room For Growth
Whether you choose to set your new year resolution on January 1, a winter solstice, or an eclipse, you can set yourself up for success by shifting how you approach your resolution.
Lately there has been a trend toward setting a theme for new year resolutions, rather than a specific goal. And yet, if you’re familiar with coaching, you’ve probably learned to create SMART goals, emphasizing the specific and measurable. However, I have found having a balance between the specific and the bigger picture theme is far more satisfying. It allows you to stay committed no matter what life challenges creep up.
Let’s look at a common new year resolution: Lose weight.
While this resolution might seem like a general theme at first glance, it’s actually quite limiting, and yet also very vague!
How much weight? How will you drop the weight? And even if you narrow it down to “drop 20 pounds by going on a keto diet”, you are boxing yourself in even more. There might be a better way to fuel and feed your body, depending on you what is unique about you and your body. Dropping 20 pounds could be less effective when compared to replacing fat or gaining 20 pounds of muscle.
Whatever resolution you choose, make sure there is space for your awareness to shift, grow, and expand. It’s in the shift in awareness that transformations first are born.
I also invite you to consider what happens if life gets really tough. Let’s return to our example of weight loss. Are you realistically going to stick with your resolution if you become too busy to cook your meals at home? If you lose the finances to hire a personal trainer or go to the gym? If, heaven forbid, you became ill and had very little energy for follow-through?
We can never truly know what will happen in the months ahead. Some years feel magical and everything seems to fall effortlessly into place. Others are met with great challenges that seem to shift everything out of place.
A powerful resolution will allow you to adapt and shift in your approach, in any given moment or situation. And when you have space to move in, your awareness will naturally change as you navigate through the experiences of your life. In fact, with shifts in your awareness, you may be led down a more fulfilling path.
Some examples of powerful resolutions (instead of weight-loss), could be: Body Alignment; Love My Body; Body Care; or Body Health.
Even if it feels as though everything is falling apart in your life, you can still find ways to align with what your body needs or make choices that are based in health. So you can start to see how themes lead to specific actions while still allowing you to move fluidly throughout your life.
What is your resolution for the new year?
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“I was a smoker of almost 30 years. I started very young and it was ingrained in my behavior. I honestly never thought I would be able to call myself a non-smoker. I’m very happy to say that as of Feb 11th, 2019, I am a non-smoker. I couldn’t have done it without Krystal’s help.
It’s easy to get caught up in the stress and morning madness of returning to work on Monday. Remembering to unplug from time to time through-out the day boosts creativity, increases optimism, and relieves stress. Set a reminder if you need it, but be sure to turn off the busy brain every now and then.Focusing on simply listening to nature is a great way to clear your mind and get a little distance from your thoughts and feelings.It’s the perfect way to reboot.
Happy Monday and every other day!
Peace can be as simple as allowing the sounds of nature to carry your thoughts away.
In the last post we looked at why Affirmations may not have worked for you. In this post, I’m following up by sharing some of my favorite methods for changing negative self-talk and mental chatter. While learning how to use Affirmations, keep in mind the purpose of this tool.
At first you might learn how to shift your thoughts relating to a singular goal. But affirmations are meant to teach you how to speak to yourself all the time, which carries over into how you speak to others. And every thought you have influences the way you experience the world. Set yourself up for success and walk into every goal you have with the belief you can and will succeed – even if it takes a bit of time to get there. Because your behavior is a direct reflection of your thoughts.
1. Use positive statements instead of negatives
Sometimes the mind processes negation statements as though they are positive. If someone tells you not to think of a pink elephant, you’re probably going to picture the pink elephant first, and then try to distract yourself with another image. Make it easier on yourself and use positive statements instead of negation statements. Some examples of negations are words like: Not, Can’t, Don’t, Won’t, Never, Can’t, No. Remember, every thought counts and as positive thoughts become more familiar they also become more comfortable. Behaviors follow your thoughts, so start with good ones.
2. Align with your personality reality
Choose statements that are in harmony with your current belief system and emotional state. You want to stretch but you don’t need to force yourself to leap across The Grand Canyon. Be honest with yourself about where you are at, and where you believe you can go. REFRAME: Instead of saying, “I love myself” try saying something like, “I’m doing the best I can and that’s enough for today.” Instead of saying, “I’m losing more and more weight every single day” try saying something like, “I love how I look and feel when I eat vegetables, so I’m eating more of them every day.” These are just examples. Whatever statement you create, make it authentic and genuine to where you are now and what are you moving towards.
3. Focus on what you gain
We are hardwired to try and avoid loss. When it comes to physical reality needs of survival, we are programmed to want more, not less. We want more food stores for winter, more community, more opportunity, more money, more time, etc. Just think about losing a loved one or a pet and you understand what I mean. So focus on what you are getting from your goals instead of what you are giving up. And make sure what you are gaining, is something you truly want deep within yourself. Because the more you want it, the more power it gains as a driving force for your success. REFRAME: Instead of saying, “I’m giving up cigarettes” you might say something like, “I love feeling healthy and breathing freely and easily.” Instead of saying, “I’m losing weight” you might say something like, “I’m eating more vegetables and lean protein and I love how my body feels this way.”
4. Clear your mind
If reframing your affirmations still leaves you feeling down or divided, then give them a rest for a while. Use what works and be willing to shelf what doesn’t. You can test it again at a later time. So if you can’t change your thoughts, simply silence them.
Have you ever watched someone clean up their working space before beginning a project? That’s because they know a clear space makes for a more productive and focused mind. So clean your environment, and then clear your mind. Learn how to cultivate the quiet inside yourself. If you can simply interrupt the habit or thought you want to change, you have a much better chance of succeeding. That pause creates a moment where you have a choice.
Meditation is an excellent way to quiet your mind. And for those with really stubborn persistent thoughts, I highly recommend Sound Meditation, which uses seed syllables and chanting to help clear the mind and energy pathways. It gives your mind and body a neutral focus of activity, making it easier to achieve a state of inner silence. Alternatively, any activity that you are so good at you can do it without thinking can be helpful. Be creative and find what works for you.
5. Remove subconscious blocks
When clearing the mind doesn’t do the trick, you might want to consider clearing the clutter and blocks on a subconscious level. Thoughts and behaviors create neuron pathways and connections in the brain. These associated connections can be compared to plant roots, and your brain or mind is like the garden. And every garden has at least a few weeds that must be removed, before they take over all the other plants. Some weeds have roots that are shallow and easily pulled out by hand, yet others run deep and require special tools to remove. If you fail to remove the roots, the weeds will grow back and fast. Special tools that can be used to remove the weeds of the mind include Hypnotherapy, EMDR, EFT, and chakra clearing.
6. Know the many voices
The voices refer to the internal conflicts you experience. Part of you (one voice) wants to do A, and the other part (voice) wants to do B. One voice wants to eat that entire cheeseburger with all the fixings plus dessert, and the other voice wants to get fit and trim. It’s like a tug-of-war game. Sometimes side A wins, and sometimes side B wins, but most of the time you’re caught in the middle, like the rope, and not really going anywhere at all. Sometimes all it takes to get one side to give-up is to understand where the voices are coming from. I’m not talking about your personal history or analyzing yourself ad nauseam. I’m talking about knowing the difference between the voices of your body, spirit, and mind.
The body sends signals frequently through-out the day. For example, a pregnant woman who is normally vegan yet finds she is craving meat while pregnant with her child. More than likely this is a signal she ought to listen to because there is a nutrient in the meat that her baby requires for healthy growth. On the other hand, the body can signal or compel you to feed an addiction of food, substance, or even love. Should you listen to every urge you feel in your body?
Of course not. You are not a slave to your body. Your body is here to support you in the physical and it’s your temple, as we like to say. The temple does not run the show. The temple is a holding space for sacred practices. So who is in charge then? Who is leading the show?
This is where you turn to your Spirit, your Higher Self, or your connection to God. Whatever you like to call that higher power. It’s the job of the temple to create a sacred space in which you can connect with God-Source. The temple doesn’t tell God or Spirit what to do. So when you feel a signal from the body, you can turn to your Spirit or God and ask what will create the best outcome for your personal Journey or Vision. This source will always encourage you to go for the light, growth, and passion. The Light Voice is uplifting and will encourage you to stretch and go for the best possible long-term outcome. This voice has a beautiful, life-affirming vision.
Just like the body tries to run the show at times, the mind will try as well. I like to call this TheHamster Wheel of Doom.
TheHamster Wheel of Doom happens when you’re mentally running in circles over and over without actually getting anywhere. Thoughts from The Hamster Wheel of Doom are usually filled with worst-case scenarios and judgements of right vs wrong, good vs evil, and unmet expectations. (Miguel Ruiz’s book, The Four Agreements, refers to this as The Judge, and he explains it much more in depth than I do here.)
Doomsday thoughts are confining, unbending, and even obsessive. When the mind is working you, instead of for you, you won’t get anywhere except where you have been before. This is what happens when the mind takes over the role of the Light Voice.
The mind in balance, however, is a tool to help you gather information, like a library, but it does not determine your reality. Your Spirit or connection to God, is what sets your course or destination. So tap into your Spirit, vision, and desire for growth and life. And use it to take charge of your thoughts. Be the captain of your ship and command yourself in a way that’s aligned with your Spirit’s vision and destination. It can be whatever you dream it to be.
What’s the number one negative thought (affirmation) you tell yourself? Email me personally at email@example.com and let me know! I read every single one.
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Lately it seems everyone is running to jump on the Affirmation band-wagon, but there is also a lot of controversy around the topic. You either believe whole-heartedly or you think it’s all a crock of you-know-what. Either way, you’re probably not wrong.
A study from Journal of Psychological Science shows that Affirmations can be very empowering for some, and quite the opposite for others. The difference is in the initial mindset of the person using the affirmation.
Those with high self-esteem felt better after using Affirmations, and those with low self-esteem tended to feel worse. How can this be, you ask? And my answer, er question, is this: How do you feel when someone tells you a lie?
Because that’s exactly how it feels when you try to force on yourself a thought you don’t really believe. Instead of uplifting yourself you end up creating a division in yourself. You break the trust. And we all know how important trust is for healthy relationships. You’ve heard it before, but I’ll say it anyway: Your relationship with yourself is the most important one you have. So you better take care with it.
So does this mean you shouldn’t use Affirmations?
The answer is not whether you should or shouldn’t use them, but how to use them to get the results you want.
Think about it like this… Let’s say you want to paint a picture. You’ve never painted before, so you go to the art store and pick whatever supplies look good, then start your first painting. You can see the image you want to paint in your mind, and maybe you’re thinking, “Yeah this is going to be so incredible. Everybody’s going to be so impressed. I’m amazing.”
But then you finish your painting and, unless you’re a prodigy, reality sets in. Bummer.
Does this mean you should give up and throw in the towel? Of course not. Because it’s not enough to know what you’re doing, you have to learn how to do it well. There are nuances, skills, techniques, and having the right tools that all contribute to the end result.
Affirmations are the same. They take practice, repetition, and techniques to use effectively. More importantly, Affirmations are not the end goal. They are a tool to help teach you how to talk to yourself. Every day, with every thought. Obviously you’re not going to repeat the same 1 to 3 phrases to yourself a millions times over the course of a day, day after day… after day.
That’s enough to make anyone want to stab themselves in the eye. No, affirmations are the training wheels. They teach you techniques so you can phrase all your thoughts in a way that helps you instead of hurts you, and stays completely original to the moment you are in.
So remember, it’s not enough to aimlessly repeat a phrase, hoping if you say it enough you’ll end up believing it. Affirmations are about learning how to alter your thoughts in a way that is honest, aligned, and opens the door for the best outcome. Because what you tell yourself shapes your beliefs, and your beliefs shape how you experience the world. And ultimately, they also shape what’s possible for you.
Next week I’ll be sharing an article on How To Use Affirmations Effectively. You didn’t think I’d leave you hanging without a few tips did you?
Now it’s your turn. Send me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org and tell me how you feel about Affirmations. Do they work? Do they not work? I want to know what you think!
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If change were as simple as counting 1-2-3 everybody would do it. But change is more like counting 5-2-3 then jumping straight to 10 and doing it all over again in a different order. You need a whole new way of thinking.
As a Clinical Hypnotherapist, and founder of The Whole Measure, Krystal Matocha helps people take the struggle out of their health and happiness goals by tapping the mind’s creative powers for a soul satisfying, mind altering, and intuitive body approach to holistic wellness.
Connect and let her know what’s been holding you back at email@example.com.