Find Your Motivation

Check out my article in Brainz Magazine, The Motivation Hack That Trumps Willpower

In this article I talk about:

  • The true nature of motivation
  • Why deprivation and resistance are the opposite of where you want to be
  • How you can start getting better results today

How Anyone Can Make A Positive Difference In The World

How coherence positively influences others

For obvious reasons, tomorrow is a big day (US inauguration), and I know a lot of us have been feeling the tension and pressure increasing in the last couple weeks especially. 

It’s more important than ever that we stay centered in ourselves, open-hearted, and compassionate. I know it can be challenging at times, but we are stronger together. That may sound cliche, so I’d like to share some examples of what I mean.

A number of studies have been conducted on the effect of meditation on violent crime rates in surrounding areas. Large groups of people meditating have shown to reduce crime rates by 11-23% – depending on the study. Even a 10% reduction is enough to save lives. This is known as the Maharishi Effect and it “may be defined as the influence of coherence and positivity in the social and natural environment.”

The studies uncovered that for a single community, only the square root of 1% of that population is needed to be in a coherent state to produce these amazing results. Coherence is a highly efficient state of harmony within the body, between various physical systems, including the heart, brain, mind and emotions.

For example, if the population of your city is 160,000 you would multiply that by 1% to get 1,600 people. Then calculate the square root of 1,600, which is 40. So in this example, 40 people in a state of coherence and positivity have the power to reduce crime by 11-23% in their city. Just by being in a state of coherence.

Additionally, the mere act of a single person meditating (IF they achieve coherence), can influence others around them to also be more calm and centered. Coherence is not contagious per se, but it does provide the people around you with the opportunity to become more coherent themselves, through the phenomena of entrainment. 

We can summarize entrainment as the rhythmic syncing and coordination of separate entities. This can happen with mechanical devices as well as with brainwave and heartbeat patterns of living beings.

Youtube video demonstrating entrainment with mechanical metronomes.

Research shows us that when people learn to sustain internal coherence, there is a “physiological linkage” (in other words, physical entrainment) that promotes empathy and good rapport between others.

This is how we can bridge the divide, and at the very least add our intentional thoughts and energy to the most positive outcome for everyone involved. You do not have to be famous, have a platform to speak from, or be in any kind of public light to have a positive influence on the world. You can do this just by being you – in a coherent state.

For that reason, tomorrow I’m going to share a scientifically proven technique for achieving coherence. Currently, I am only planning to share this recording with my email subscribers, so if you haven’t signed up and you would like to learn this technique, be sure to join below now and look for my email tomorrow. I look forward to seeing you there!

This post is from January 19, 2021 and this offer has expired.

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What if you could eat what you want and manage a healthy weight?

What if you could eat what you want and manage a healthy weight?

In case no one’s told you today, “eat what you want.”

^ Advice you rarely hear from – well, anyone these days.

Some are well-meaning. Others are gimmicks. Either way, the weight-loss industry is built on rules, limitations and restrictions:

  • Cut out all white food because white – bad.
    BTW, anyone who knows me also knows how much I love white potatoes – and they helped me shed 20 pounds.
  • Carbs are bad – eat no more than 5% carbohydrates per day.
    Do you have any idea how ridiculously difficult this is?
  • Cooked food is bad. It makes you sick.
    Raw food, on the other hand, is the fountain of youth, so if you want to look young and healthy, only eat raw food.
  • Don’t ever eat meat.
    Good people don’t eat meat. It’s cruel and lowers your vibration.
  • CICO (calories in calories out) is king!
    So as long as you have a calorie deficit you can’t not lose weight.
  • Protein is the answer because you need to build muscle.
    Eat more! BTW your body can only process 30 grams of protein in one sitting, so you’ll need to space your 100-200 grams of protein throughout your day. Did I mention protein?

I could keep going, but I’ll spare you the pain.

I used to subscribe to a whole list of dietary rules and limitations, until I completed a series of hypnotherapy sessions for myself. That series later became the foundation for my program, Love Your Body Weight-loss.

Before LYB, I had developed so many rules that I was averaging about 800-1000 calories per day. I wasn’t doing it intentionally – my appetite was shot from all the “healthy” practices I followed.

I stayed away from fruit, bread, potatoes and any other carbohydrate dense food. I ate only small amounts of animal product. I ate minimally processed food – mostly whole natural foods. I tracked everything I ate because I couldn’t figure out what was going on.

Somehow I was still 20 pounds overweight, incredibly fatigued and I had lost the enjoymenet of the food I did eat. Funny enough, I believed I was being healthy, and then felt like a guilty failure if I deviated whatsoever from that regime.

I remember a particularly critical moment when I almost gave-up. I sat in my bedroom alone, crying, speaking out loud to no one, “I’m trying SO hard and not making any progress – what IS THE POINT THEN?!”

Fortunately that’s all in the past now.

One of my biggest break-throughs happened when my unconscious mind opened me to the possibility of allowing carbohydrates into my day.

The message was clear: eat oranges, and eat as many as you want.

To be honest, I received unconscious guidance to include oranges twice before I worked up the nerve to try it.

I finally realized I had nothing to lose and had an orange. Just one!

Curiously, for the first time in months when I stepped on the scale the following day it measured a lower weight. Just a bit, but it was a change.

From there, I added more oranges which grew to other fruits, and that continued to evolve into greater variety of carbohydrates including potatoes, oatmeal, quinoa – even white bread and pasta on occasion. Then came a steady reduction in body weight.

After months of struggle and resistance, those 20 excess pounds came off relatively easily. I achieved a healthy weight, drastically improved energy levels and found enjoyment in food once again.

Easing up dietary restrictions wasn’t the only thing I learned, but it was a key turning point for my personal journey.

Your journey may be different, and might not include carbohydrates.

I’m sharing this story not to argue whether carbohydrates are good or bad, but to demonstrate that sometimes it’s the thing we’re afraid of, or the thing we have vilified, that we need in order to keep the whole show in motion.

Without the proper balance, motivation is hard to maintain and “diets” quickly fall apart or simply don’t work.

I’ll give you another example.

I was having a casual conversation with a friend a few weeks back. He was telling me about a personal trainer that he’s working with, and some dietary guidelines he was following. (Estimates suggest food is 70-90% of weight management.)

The guidelines he was given led him to stop drinking milk, which he used to really enjoy.

You also may have heard the argument against milk, which typically goes something like this:

  • Cow’s milk is made for baby cows. You’re not a baby cow, so your body’s not designed to process cow’s milk.
  • Dairy creates inflammation and mucous in the body, and that creates disease.
  • Dairy cows are kept in inhumane conditions and pumped full of hormones and steroids that are unnatural and contribute to weight-gain.

Any and all of these statements could be true, depending on the person, type of milk, and where it’s sourced.

What was interesting about this casual conversation was how my friend emphasized his love of milk. He made it clear that he did NOT like milk substitutes such as almond, rice or cashew. He also went on to share a story about his vitamin D levels being extremely low (despite daily sunshine in the blistering heat of Phoenix). The levels were so low it alarmed his doctor. And go figure, he complained of fatigue, weight-loss resistance and “just wanted to feel better.”

I could feel the frustration and sadness in his voice.

So I, very intentionally, asked him if he thought there was something in the milk that helped his body use or process vitamin D. He started to wonder…

The next day he sent me a thank you note for our conversation and let me know he had already bought dairy milk.

A week later I checked in and his energy levels were improving. The next time I saw him (about 2 weeks later), his muscles were noticeably bigger and he looked healthier.

Now I’m not plugging “milk – it does a body good”. I’m sharing this because it’s a beautiful example of what is possible and how quickly our bodies can change when we learn to listen to ourselves.

When we buy into the dietary rules someone else sets up for us, we close ourselves off to the intuitive knowing of our own body, and consequently the power that inherently lies within.

Respectively, when we open to the intuitive knowing of our body, abundance and choice become available at every turn.

Introducing… Love Your Body Weight-loss

Self-guided direction is so important that I have built it into all of my programs, and it has a profound influence on your ability to maintain motivation over time.

In LYB you’ll learn how to maintain motivation, let go of binging, overcome self-sabotage, release weight-loss fears and go from over-weight to healthy by integrating the habits, mindset and belief-system of someone who LOVES their body.

This is NOT a get-ripped and chiseled plan. I want you to know there are better options out there for you, if that’s what you’re looking for.

LYB is about building a positive relationship with your body and food, so managing a healthy weight becomes natural and fun.

This is the first time I’m making Love Your Body Weight-loss available as self-study, so I’m also offering the option to upgrade with private coaching or hypnotherapy sessions at a discounted rate.

Plus, you’ll receive lifetime access to the self-study program, including updates.

This offer is available November 8th – November 15th, 2020.

After that, the price will increase and I don’t know when or if these options will be available at this price again.

The choice is yours, and I’ll be the first to say, “Trust yourself.”

Here’s the link:

Learn More about Love Your Body Weight-loss

Can you imagine what loving your body would mean to YOU?

I know the prospect of change can sometimes create anxiety. Some people will allow that anxiety to stop them from moving forward. Do you want to be the person that stops before you start because you feel a little anxious? Or do you want to be the person that senses something more is available and LEAPS.

Weight-loss: are people really as motivated as they think they are?

Weight-loss: are people really as motivated as they think they are?

Today I want to start a conversation with you about weight-loss.  Not surprisingly, weight-loss is one of the most common reasons people seek hypnotherapy.

People love to talk about food, appearance and weight. When was the last time you went a whole week without discussing it? Many people can’t even imagine what that would be like.

Our days are filled with conversations about:

  • what we ate
  • what we’re going to eat
  • why we can’t eat certain foods
  • what we’re trying not to eat
  • our latest diet
  • the most recent diet research and fads
  • our weight-loss goals
  • body insecurities

Sometimes we try to avoid these conversations and then go home to indulge in secret, feeling ashamed and wondering if people only knew… Either way, food and our bodies, for many of us, are unconsciously a major focus of our day.

Even with food and health being a focus, why do so many people find it difficult to follow-through on their diets and health plans? It takes mere days, sometimes weeks or months, before the diet is broken and we have to “start over tomorrow”. 

“I’ll start over tomorrow!”

Somehow we’re always “starting over” and never actually achieving lasting success. Years and decades pass, repeating the same round-about loop of dieting-cheating-getting heavier-dieting-cheating-getting heavier. Then we wonder why we can’t follow-through, especially when we believe the motivation is there to succeed.

 I’d like to share with you 3 insights I’ve learned about motivation:

  • People who lose motivation, unconsciously expect it to stay the same every day
  • Sometimes what we think is motivating us, is NOT the real motivation
  • Instead of seeking validation, recognition or following the latest plan, the most motivated people I know are driven from something deep within

Think about this for a moment. What are the implications of these statements? Can you imagine how you might apply them to your weight management goals? Or any goal for that matter?

I have more on this coming, but first I’d love to hear from you. What do YOU think is the hardest part about managing a healthy weight?

Talk with you soon!

You are welcome to email me your responses if you don’t want to post publicly below.

Q/A How do I handle the stress of failure?

Today I’m sharing one question (and answer) that speaks to people who struggle with chronic stress and anxiety –  fear of failure.

How do I handle the stress of failure?

“I’m suffering with stress and the thought of failure is killing me. I’m not doing well at my job at all. My path isn’t going the way I thought it would and now I’m in a heap of dread and regret. I’m afraid of the future and I’m afraid I’m not cut out for life. Any words of personal experience and expertise?”

Is this how you feel?

If you can type your question then you’re at least doing better than this ^ woman, but I know the feeling. We’ve all doubted ourselves or our abilities at some point. The good news is there’s one thing you can do right now to start feeling better.

Reframe: failure isn’t killing you – it’s making you great.

See if you can relate to this person’s story.

A man, let’s call him Sam, dropped out of college after only one semester and quit his job so he could backpack across India. Sam also started a business, only to get kicked out by his partners. (Apparently, he was difficult to work with.) Later on he had the opportunity to rejoin the business he was kicked out of – but only when (and perhaps because) it was failing.

There are lot of people who would look at Sam and think, “What a loser.”

Sam was different from most people. He did things his own way – even when it didn’t make sense to others. Sam also tried and failed, a lot more than once. He could have given up and bought into the myth that he was just “bad at life,” but he didn’t.

Sam’s real name was Steve Jobs, creator of Apple. Behind every story of incredible success exists several stories of failure. Every human fails – it’s not unique or special. In fact, the difference between greatness and mediocrity isn’t failure or success.

The difference is the ability to learn from your decisions and actions with a sense of spirit and adventure. That’s how you grow and refine so you improve over time, because success isn’t built in a day.

The problem happens when you:

  1.  mentally obsess over things you cannot change 
  2.  attach failure to your worth/value as a human.

The fact you’re even considering your path isn’t how you want, is a good step in the direction of self-reflection. Next, reframe how you think about your experience so it’s productive and helpful. Coming down hard, criticizing or judging yourself will only waste energy and stop you from getting the benefits of your experience.

Without specifics of your situation, I wonder:

  • How do you know you’re not doing well at your job?
  • Is that really true and what can you think of that might disprove that statement?

It’s easy to think our situation is worse than it really is, but let’s assume your assessment is accurate.

Here are some questions to help you start reframing your position.

  • What have you learned on this path?
  • Have you learned 100 ways NOT to do your job, so you can find 10 exceedingly great ways?
  • How’s the industry or company environment – what is and isn’t to your liking? What might be better suited to your preferences?
  • How do you like your career choice? Does it benefit from your natural personality and talents?
  • Sometimes the career choice is good, but the company culture is dissatisfying. How could you change the culture at your place of work? What are your options for moving to another company?

Sometimes we think the problem is the company culture, and though unpleasant, the deeper problem is that our spirit is drawn in a another direction.  

The big question is, what do you want and will you take the steps required to get you there?

If you’re committed, you can start today.

If you’d like direct, concentrated support you can purchase 1:1 coaching or hypnotherapy with me. Just email and I’ll be in touch shortly.

How Consciousness Evolves

If you want to know how your consciousness changes, watch a flower open. A few years ago my mom and I stood talking around a completely closed up wild evening primrose. It was early evening, nearing twilight, and we were sharing secrets we knew about wildflowers. I adoringly leaned over, pointing to the primrose, and said, “They pop open in the evening.” 

Magically, the instant I lightly touched the flower, it unfolded completely showing off its silky white heart-shaped petals. In less than a second, we witnessed a rather miraculous change in this flower – perfectly timed with my words.

How many times have we looked at a flower as it unrolled its petals, only to see nothing change? Yet when we review accelerated video footage of plants we clearly see them open, grow and transform, spiraling ’round and ’round over the course of seconds, hours, and weeks. Sometimes we fail to observe the changes that are happening every day around and within us. Yet continue to unfold, they do.

Journey into your subconscious – call 928.421.2427 or email to schedule a hypnotherapy session.

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Anxiety, Stress & Trauma

Anxiety is often a stress response. When faced with a serious threat (real or imagined), your autonomic nervous system gets activated, and instantaneously you have to decide whether you’re going to fight, flight, or freeze.

For those who have experienced trauma, the freeze response can become ingrained and stored in your subconscious, thus leading to automatic perpetually high levels of anxiety. And I know how helpless you can feel to change it, but I promise, it can get better.

If you relate, you might consider reaching out to your healthcare provider to discuss PTSD. I’m linking an article below that explains the freeze response in more detail. We’ll also be covering some techniques for managing PTSD in Let Go & Be In The Flow. I’m excited to share these with you, because I’ve found them to be MASSIVE game-changers. Last day to join is Wednesday May 27 2020. Email TO JOIN or if you have any questions about the program.        

Article on the freeze response:

Honoring Our Warriors

Today’s Memorial Day, and as I’m thinking about the veterans who stood, fought, risked, and sacrificed their lives for us, I’m reminded of the warriors I know. Each and every single one of them always encouraged people to be their own hero.

I wonder how they felt, and what they thought, with such a huge responsibility resting on their shoulders. And I wonder how going through war, or even training for war, changed their perception of the world. 

The thing is, even if they wanted, they couldn’t be responsible for the fate of the world. There are too many players in the game, each one with an unseen hand in the deck. That’s why we each have a responsibility – an influence, and maybe I’m wrong, but I believe that’s why the greatest warriors always hope to see each of us stand up for ourselves somehow.

We dedicate a day of remembrance to our veterans because they inspire and honor us by taking a stand for our safety, well-being, and place in the world. What about how we inspire them? If anyone needs inspiring, surely it’s our veterans and soldiers.

Now It’s Your Turn

What does being a hero mean to you or what have you learned about heroism from the warriors in your life? What have you learned from being a warrior?

Email – I read every response.

A Hero’s Journey

You’re a hero. Does it feel strange hearing that? Or do you feel at home in those words? I remember when I was first introduced to the concept while studying the Hero’s Journey. At the time, I felt like a visitor in a strange land. I couldn’t own the feeling of being a hero. A lot of people can’t – not right away.

I understood the logic perfectly. Every person goes through a series of journeys within their life. Within each journey, you learn lessons… some lessons come from “failures” and others from victories. Each one has the potential, if you allow it, to gift you wisdom. Sounds very evolved, but it’s easy to comprehend something mentally, and not understand how it feels in your body or subconscious. Is it actual understanding, if you don’t “get it” in your body?

The shifting point happened for me while doing some hypnotic work on myself. My subconscious had a message: “No one’s coming to save you or fix your problems. YOU have to do it.” I had a block that was preventing me from moving forward, and my subconscious knew exactly what I needed to hear to help me shift.

You see, unlike your best friend, your subconscious is a master at saying what you need to hear (instead of what you want to hear), without offending or hurting you.

Impressive, isn’t it? If anyone else had said to me, “No one’s coming to save you,” I’d have been offended because I felt like I was truly trying at the time. Yet, I felt stuck, frustrated, and *cough* ashamed *cough*.

Since the new perception happened at a subconscious level, there was no resistance, and it created an overnight change in my behavior and how I felt about myself. Now I can say, “I’m a hero” and feel resonance in my heart, because I believe it. You can feel differently about yourself too. I promise. The key is in your subconscious mind.

Quick Reminder

Let Go & Be In The Flow closes Wednesday May 27 2020. We’ll be uncovering and changing subconscious beliefs and blocks. Learn More

Now it’s your turn

What is something you want for your life, but have a hard time FEELING as truth?

How might your life change if you felt like a hero (in an easy-going self-confident way)?

Self-Alignment Matters For Stress Management

Ever notice how everyone seems to have an opinion or idea about what you’re doing or what they think you should do – especially when you’re experiencing a challenge? That’s a lot of pressure. Even when your friend, mom, therapist, coach, or doctor has the best intentions in mind. Problem is, as they say, “you can be sincere, and be sincerely wrong.” And sometimes good advice is good advice, but it’s not the best advice for you.

Imagine you’re making a pot of stew, and when you taste it – it’s bad. I’m no chef, but even I can think of a number of ways to fix a pot of stew. Add in a number of different herbs or spices. Add some cream, or some chopped tomato. Maybe the stew needs some lime juice or vegetable stock… or it needs time for the flavors to meld together. I could keep going with this…

Now what if your spouse says, “I know how to fix it,” and rattles off a list of ingredients to add. So you start adding the ingredients, eye-balling the amounts as you go, the whole time feeling frustrated and angry because now you have to fix the stew and you’re not sure how it will turn out. You put in more energy and time, meanwhile worrying about the outcome, when what you really wanted to do was throw out the stew, order pizza, and relax. So now you’ve got a bad pot of stew, a jerk husband who thinks he knows everything, and you’re sick and tired of doing everything around the house.

On the other hand, imagine you love cooking and want to experiment with creating and improving the stew. If the stew is still bad, you throw it out and barely give it a second or third thought – even if you’re happily imagining what you’d like to try next time. A bad pot of stew is just a bad pot of stew. It doesn’t spiral into ALL the other things that are “wrong” with your life.

There are a number of ways you can solve any given problem or challenge. The question is, what do you want to do? Because when you step into the unknown from a place of alignment with yourself and Spirit, the outcome matters less and growth matters more. And instead of spiraling into stress or despair, you find joy.

Are you ready to move into alignment and let stress fade away? Doors close for my stress management program, Let Go & Be In The Flow, on Wednesday May 27th. It’s part hypnotherapy and part accountability. Experience the transformative power of your brilliant subconscious mind. Read more about it here.

Email me your questions or to join!