In this video I’m answering the question, “Does diet affect self-esteem?” Diets, exercise, long walks on the beach, bubble baths, journaling… All that stuff, as great as it can be, is not the answer for self-love (or self-esteem). It’s not the answer for feeling better about yourself. Not in the long-run. Not for most people.
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I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with those things. If you feel good doing them, if it lines up with your value system, if you benefit from it – that’s great. Keep doing it.
It’s just not the answer for everyone and why there are some people who really struggle when it comes to implementing those kinds of – it’s very typical advice to be given:
“Just take care of yourself and you’ll feel better about yourself.”
It Doesn’t Always Work Like That
Often times it’s the opposite.
Usually people start to feel better about themselves and then they’re able to start doing those things that help them with their mental health. Help them to feel good about who they are and what they’re doing with their life.
If that (standard) kind of advice worked, then why is it that anybody from any type of background can struggle with self-esteem.
For example, self-esteem issues can effect people who:
- have a lot of money
- have experienced a lot of success in life
- are incredibly beautiful
- are incredibly intelligent
- are exceptionally talented
People who seem to have ALL those things going for them. Anybody can struggle with self-esteem.
So if walks, diets, fitness, wellness – all these things. If that’s not going to help you feel better about yourself, then what will?
Resolving The Underlying Cause Of Self-Esteem Issues
The piece that’s usually tucked away outside of our normal day-to-day awareness that we’ve become so accustomed to, that we don’t even notice it’s there anymore.
That part that causes you to feel badly about yourself, to think badly about yourself, to question your value, to question your worth, that’s what needs to be resolved. That’s what needs to be addressed.
It’s Not Just One Thing
It’s usually a collection of different issues that have been strung together into one story or a necklace that’s all knotted up.
If you’ve been trying to do all the things to take care of yourself. Maybe even to an extreme. Maybe you’re a perfectionist who’s always trying to make yourself just right, to have it all together, and you still feel badly about yourself. You still feel like there’s something wrong with you. Or maybe you’re afraid to show people the real you, the vulnerable side of you. The part that’s not all together.
Well it’s not because there’s something wrong with you. You’re not broken, it’s not your fault. You’re human and you just haven’t gotten to the real issues. Once you get to the real issues and you get those resolved, then the self-esteem will naturally improve on its own.
As Self-Esteem Improves You Will Start Wanting To Take Better Care Of Yourself
How that ends up looking can be quite different from person-to-person.
Same goes for the underlying cause.
That’s why standard advice like, “Exercise every day and take a long walk outside and eat right” doesn’t work. There are no one size fits all plans. There are no one size fits all shirts. As much as we like to try and make them, and find ways to create those kinds of approaches, that’s not human nature.
Once you get to the underlying causes, get those resolved, your self-esteem will improve.
It is possible for you.